I was recently reading an article online from the Fraser Coast Chronicle titled ‘Where are all the Single Men?’ … view here.
It states;
FOR all the 30-something women out there who have been unlucky in love it will come as no surprise that the older one gets, the harder it is to find Mr Right.
A report based on a recent Census shows that in Hervey Bay in particular, there are 682 single women for every 523 single men in the 30-39 bracket.
‘Where are all the Single Men?’
I’ve never come across these 523 single men in the 30 – 39 bracket (that are gorgeous, intelligent, respectful, well mannered and have pride in their appearance)?
Or could past experiences at local restaurants, bars and online have tainted my opinion of our apparent local talent…?
• Perhaps they are the ones I’ve met that can’t hold a conversation by 10pm due to alcohol consumption?
(Beware of the LOCAL DRUNK!)
• or the one that came over drunk and directly asked me for F#*K? What not even bought a drink first nowadays, I queried, before I replied using F#*K OFF myself, the only language that would be understood in this situation.
(Beware of the IDIOT WITH NO MANNERS!)
• Or how about as you are leaving to go home after a night out and a bloke comes over and says, “my friend wants to talk to you” … I query, I have been here all night did the cat have his tongue, besides we are not in grade eight anymore and proceeded to go home immediately when the man in question came over, stood in front of me and said nothing as he was too drunk or perhaps he was just blinded by my beauty!
(Beware of the I’D LIKE TO TAKE YOU HOME BUT I’LL SEND MY BUDDY OVER BECAUSE I HAVE NO BALLS AND AM TOO DRUNK TO TALK!)
• Or perhaps the man that came over to me at a bar and asked if he could take me to dinner. Then drank excessively and wedged his own underpants and shorts up his bottom in front of me (and everyone) at the bar till they became a g-banger and his testicles hung out either side? I took a photo, printed it and gave it to his friend the next day who took it to his work place displaying it to all. Needless to say he was mortified, couldn’t remember a thing, swore he would never drink again and still blushes whenever he sees me.
(Beware of the I CAN’T REMEMBER ANYTHING!)
• Or maybe one of the numerous drunk men that have grabbed my breast or butt in full view of all, then become aggressive when given a very loud verbal dress down that this is sexual assault an act that is punishable by law, that will not be tolerated and clearly demonstrates their pathetic and disrespectful character. In most cases security has removed the offenders from the venues.
(Beware of the SEXUAL PREDATOR!)
• Or the local health professional who took me on several dates paying for everything and when I queried whether we were friends or dating …. Thought for awhile then said friends and never spoke to me again? I was confused at first, I felt I had lost a friend but thought there has to be a lesson to be learnt here! Then I realised, I was never a friend, I was being finetuned to be a ‘Friend with Benefits’ (Thank god I was never a nook in that bedpost!!!). So why be disappointed about something that never was (the friendship), or why waste time on someone that can’t handle a straight forward honest simple question? How funny!
(Beware of the PLAYER / TIMEWASTER!)
• Or perhaps the local man that was dating someone I knew, hitting me on RSVP whilst being in what she thought was a secure relationship?
I had to take my profile down due to hundreds of men hitting me daily that just couldn’t seem to read my preferences. Must have no children, must be a non smoker, must have a certain level of education, must be fit, NO I don’t want to date someone with a mullet wearing thongs aged in their sixties!!!
When I changed the first sentence in my profile to ‘NOT INTERESTED IN A ONE NIGHT STAND’ there was a remarkable drop in my profile interest! LOL Go Figure!
(Beware of the ONLINE FAKE ILITERATE STALKERS!)
And who says there is anything wrong with be unlucky in love, could it just be an intelligent professional personal choice nowadays? …. Let’s see;
1. Ask for permission to leave the house? Or jump on the Harley whenever you like!
2. Clean up after someone? Or have a tidy home where everything is where you left it!
3. Slave over a hot stove in the kitchen for others? Or grab a delicious Thai takeaway.
4. Stay at home with the children? Or do whatever you like when you like?
5. Live day to day to meet the bills? Or Travel, save, buy property, have adventure, new experiences?
6. Constant noise, chatter and winging? Or a serene, peaceful, relaxing existence.
7. Sit on the couch and watch the footy? Or get outdoors and go climb a mountain!
This list could go on forever … It’s not just men wanting to protect the life and wealth they’ve created in their 20s / 30s, women do too. Why should you date someone who hasn’t worked as hard; whether family, financial, intellectual, spiritual or physical health?
I personally believe a lot of men and women especially in the age bracket mentioned above lack manners and self respect nowadays, they carry baggage, and chose not to engage their intelligence which then has a ripple effect that can be seen in all aspects of their character, life and repeat failed relationships.
I think it is the same for men and women when looking for relationship qualities;
Do you love and respect yourself?
Do you respect others?
Are you willing to give what you are expecting to receive?
Are you willing to complement and enhance someone’s life?
Why would you chose to be with someone that can’t have open, honest and clear communication with?
Who wants a player, life is too short for games?
Why would you want to be with someone that disrespects you?
Why would you want to be with someone that abuses alcohol?
If education is important to you why would you settle with someone that is not?
Would you want to be with someone that is not comfortable within themselves?
The article goes on to read….
In the 20-29 age bracket, there are 926 single males (the majority of whom are tradies) for every 891 single females.
This could be bad news for the eligible bachelors who have to work a little harder in a tougher market but it could also be a sign for 30s gals who might be prepared to set their sights on someone a little younger.
So perhaps being single, living the dream and enjoying the Cougar life could be on the rise in the Fraser Coast!
Has ‘Sex in the City’ finally caught on in Hervey Bay!!!
Happily single, with an open heart, till a strong kind man values my positive, humorous and professional qualities!!!
I’m not going to change my life for second best!
PS. Always remember you’re unique, just like everyone else!
(Honestly where do the ideal men hide out in Hervey Bay and where do you meet them if not at a bar, or without moving a far, hhmmmmmm something may need to be done about this?)